Hardships of being a female in the LGBT community?

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Although people often consider lesbians to have it easier than gay men - and, of course, if you are looking at the matter under the law, as well as in terms of acceptance by society, then this is undoubtedly true... it's a sad disparity that needs to be evened out - the reason behind people being accepting of lesbians whilst at the same time not of gay men is somewhat disturbing and disconcerting. It's because they find it sexy, and hot and whatever. In this way, lesbians are sexualized more than any other in the LGBT community, and I think that's a disadvantage, because instantly it sends a message to us that society doesn't value our relationships as it does those of straight men and women, and that they are illegitimate as far as society is concerned. Further, it sends a message to young people who are straight that we are lesser, and, worse, that we are there simply for the satisfaction and pleasure of straight men. That pisses me off!! Because it is standing in the way of human progress, and hindering humanity's cause. Just saying...

I hear you there. So many girls will pretend they're lesbians/bisexual just to get guys to look at them. It's annoying and unfair to the true lgbt women

I know, I hate it so much. But, on the subject of annoying things that straight girls do... am I the only person who gets infuriated when straight girls say they love gay men and want a gay best friend or whatever, but then say lesbians are disgusting and they'd never be friends with one etc.? The same applies conversely (guys are super turned on, usually, by lesbians, but then get all uncomfortable about male homosexuality). WHAT IS THIS MADNESS:?:

I know! Talk about hypocrites. Like, straight girls are worried lesbians will come on to them, and the same thing with guys. Please, who wants to be with someone that thinks EVERYONE wants to be with them? They need to get over themselves.

I know, right? Like I've got this 'friend' who is convinced I'm into her, or at the very least, one of my other friends. She claims that I'm only friends with my friendship group because I'm into one of them, and am using it as an excuse to get close to that person. What the hell? I'm sorry, but how does that thought even manifest itself? Like, how obsessed must she be with my life to go make up a story like that?

Ugh, that sucks. I wasn't out when I was in hs so I never had that problem (I don't have friends now either) but I did have a gay friend. I remember I heard this girl in my grade was a lesbian and I got so excited (I didn't know why) and I did somethin stupid. Maybe your "friend" is gay and in denial?

You know, I wouldn't even be surprised if she did turn out to be gay... I mean, she brings it up ALL the freakin' time; surely if she found it that awkward she wouldn't talk about it at all. Yep, you're right. Case closed. She's gay.

Also, a similar thing happened to me... when I found out there was a lesbian in my year, it made me strangely happy and excited... despite the fact that i didn't know this girl at all and had spoken to her not once i believe, it somehow managed to make me feel less alone...

Haha, she probably likes you and is disguising her pain by saying she doesn't want you to like her.

Anyways, it's always nice to know there's something else nearby, even if you don't talk to them.

I'm too lazy to read through, but have we mentioned the necessary fear of men, especially in groups, especially after dark, especially when you're with your girlfriend?

Ugh..